Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage from the people that run Black and Married with Kids. I’m digging it already.
peace,
e.
Tag: black women
I’ve been holding off on commenting on this for a while, but since people are asking, here’s my two cents.
the good
well, some light is being shed on domestic violence in the black community. We are actually acknowledging it exists and speaking about it with our friends. We are seeing that it can happen to anyone and we are seeing a lot of people talking out how this has affected them personally – men and women. And hopefully, we will see a beautiful young woman strong enough to walk away and a young man secure enough to get some real help and learn to deal with his issues.
the bad
Most likely we won’t. And it will be heartbreaking to see them together again, and more heartbreaking when he does this again. I understand that it is not easy to walk away from an abusive relationship. I know even when women leave it is emotionally draining to press charges.
the ugly
The way young people are reacting to this situation. Reading the comments on Black gossip sites and on Rihanna and Chris’s myspace pages is horrifying. Some young people think this is ok. Some people think being provoked is a reason to beat a woman (this comes straight from Chris’s sister AND cousin).
So what do you guys think?
peace,
e.
h/t: postbougie, ill doctrine, huffington post
p.s. dope vid courtesy of ill doctrine
for real? Is this requisite line of every black chick on reality shows?
Last night I watched the premiere of Real Chance of Love. Yes, the show is as terrible as its title and horrendous wardrobe. Who dresses theses guys?!
But please slip me the number of real’s hair dresser because I WISH my hair had that shine.
At any rate, the show is basically Flavor of Love (my fav) but with two clowns and too many angry women. The black women were so angry. The white women were so “color blind.” The show was absolutely ridiculous but one part struck me, the mandatory “I’m not here for friends” line that somehow turned into a really huge fight. It went like this.
White woman: We should be buddies.
Black woman: I’m not here for friends.
White woman: Ok *walks away*
Black woman immediately starts talking shit to other women about how the White women wanted to be friends. She threw in the “She’s here for the wrong thing, she’s not real” line and the others giggle.
White women: *over hearing this (because of course the Black woman was extra loud)* Are you talking about me?
Black woman (yelling): YES! I AM NOT HERE FOR FRIENDS!
Uhm, what in the world? Don’t believe me, watch it here. That was annoying. What was more disturbing to hear it in real life in my office yesterday. Someone was in my office and we were talking about the drama that is grad school and she told me she didn’t have any friends at school. She then named three women who are acquaintances and was really proud of her self.
“I’m not here for friends,” she said as she leaned back in here, a proud smile pasted on her face. [editor's note: edited b/c it was causing drama in my real life]
Ladies, lemme break something down for you. You need friends. You need friends at school, you need friends at work, you need friends in your life. I know this macho “I don’t need friends” bs makes you feel like you’re an independent woman, but for real, you sound foolish.
Why do you need friends? Well besides the fact that friends are awesome, they can benefit you. You can study with your friends at school. Friends at work can help you with your projects, they can keep you from putting your foot in your mouth at meetings. Friends at both can support you when people start acting crazy (it’s inevitable). I love friends.
If the friends at work and school aren’t awesome, perhaps you aren’t choosing them wisely. The office gossip, probably not the one you should be a bff with. The loud mouth who’s always playing people in class, while funny, is not the one that you want to share your insecurities with.
Choose wisely and please make some friends.
peace,
e.
crossposted at SASSY