Comments for Eva C. Haldane http://evahaldane.com/blog these are just my thoughts Tue, 01 May 2012 13:50:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on the smallest apartment in the world by Buena Schimler http://evahaldane.com/blog/2011/10/the-smallest-apartment-in-the-world/comment-page-1/#comment-632 Buena Schimler Tue, 01 May 2012 13:50:02 +0000 http://evahaldane.com/blog/?p=426#comment-632 Continue with the the great work on the blog. I appreciate it. Could maybe use some more updates more often, but i am sure you got better or other things to do , hehe. :p Continue with the the great work on the blog. I appreciate it. Could maybe use some more updates more often, but i am sure you got better or other things to do , hehe. :p

]]> Comment on confessions of a chick who was in denial of her daddy issues by Sherisa D http://evahaldane.com/blog/2012/02/confessions-of-a-chick-who-was-in-denial-of-her-daddy-issues/comment-page-1/#comment-627 Sherisa D Tue, 03 Apr 2012 07:44:10 +0000 http://evahaldane.com/blog/?p=467#comment-627 I don't think it's so much leaving a man because he won't give you what you need to be happy or feel loved or appreciated. I think it's mostly we need our private and intimate parts to be validated and a bit worshiped. That's not egotistical, but in a raw human way, we all need that. It's more about us as tender beings explaining to willing, open ears & hearts that this is important to us. You can't always just show love or commitment in your own way, you must be willing to bend and do it their way as well. Most times that's much easier for women than it is for men. I understand your situation completely but at some point we do have to take control of our own existence. I grew up in a home with a father that has always lived there, but never checked in. I hold all kinds of personal demons as a result, but I've made it my mission to seek out men in intimate settings that are complete opposites of what I feel he represents. Sometimes it isn't what he represents as a father, but our (bc we all do this) skewed perception of what he represents as a life partner to my mother. I've done pretty damn well for myself as a result. You will too. Choose wisely. I don’t think it’s so much leaving a man because he won’t give you what you need to be happy or feel loved or appreciated. I think it’s mostly we need our private and intimate parts to be validated and a bit worshiped. That’s not egotistical, but in a raw human way, we all need that. It’s more about us as tender beings explaining to willing, open ears & hearts that this is important to us. You can’t always just show love or commitment in your own way, you must be willing to bend and do it their way as well.

Most times that’s much easier for women than it is for men. I understand your situation completely but at some point we do have to take control of our own existence. I grew up in a home with a father that has always lived there, but never checked in. I hold all kinds of personal demons as a result, but I’ve made it my mission to seek out men in intimate settings that are complete opposites of what I feel he represents. Sometimes it isn’t what he represents as a father, but our (bc we all do this) skewed perception of what he represents as a life partner to my mother. I’ve done pretty damn well for myself as a result.

You will too. Choose wisely.
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]]> Comment on I love it when you talk Daddy to me by Sherisa D http://evahaldane.com/blog/2012/04/i-love-it-when-you-talk-daddy-to-me/comment-page-1/#comment-626 Sherisa D Mon, 02 Apr 2012 09:32:12 +0000 http://evahaldane.com/blog/?p=484#comment-626 You are absolutely right Eva! Black men get an awful rep for a few bad seeds, but it's only because we've allowed that conversation to not only go on too much in our own community but for it to spread to a larger audience. An ignorant audience. People are far too eager to tell the bad tales of Black life. Regardless if they lived it. Especially if they haven't. The all-knowing attitude dies hard. Daddy talk is the best talk. I ate it up too, especially in work situations. You watch these men who spend most of their time coming off cool or super serious melt and turn to papa mush. Precious. You are absolutely right Eva! Black men get an awful rep for a few bad seeds, but it’s only because we’ve allowed that conversation to not only go on too much in our own community but for it to spread to a larger audience. An ignorant audience. People are far too eager to tell the bad tales of Black life. Regardless if they lived it. Especially if they haven’t. The all-knowing attitude dies hard.

Daddy talk is the best talk. I ate it up too, especially in work situations. You watch these men who spend most of their time coming off cool or super serious melt and turn to papa mush. Precious.

]]> Comment on a note to myself when i start tripping about love by Katrice Jimerson http://evahaldane.com/blog/2012/03/a-note-to-myself-when-i-start-tripping-about-love/comment-page-1/#comment-621 Katrice Jimerson Fri, 16 Mar 2012 13:59:52 +0000 http://evahaldane.com/blog/?p=472#comment-621 That kind of permanent, peaceful love comes when you aren't searching for it. Even in marriage, the peace doesn't last forever! You have to work when it sucks, and the high times feel that much sweeter. My suggestion is to find out what you want from yourself as a future wife! It makes it easier to put yourself on the right track. Second, don't look for love, Look for friendship! Lovers come and go but friends will deal with you through it all. Your time will come, just don't preoccupy yourself with anything more than personal growth. You're dope. It won't be too long! That kind of permanent, peaceful love comes when you aren’t searching for it. Even in marriage, the peace doesn’t last forever! You have to work when it sucks, and the high times feel that much sweeter. My suggestion is to find out what you want from yourself as a future wife! It makes it easier to put yourself on the right track. Second, don’t look for love, Look for friendship! Lovers come and go but friends will deal with you through it all. Your time will come, just don’t preoccupy yourself with anything more than personal growth. You’re dope. It won’t be too long!

]]> Comment on a note to myself when i start tripping about love by Tiffany http://evahaldane.com/blog/2012/03/a-note-to-myself-when-i-start-tripping-about-love/comment-page-1/#comment-620 Tiffany Fri, 16 Mar 2012 13:30:23 +0000 http://evahaldane.com/blog/?p=472#comment-620 Girl, I WAS just tripping about love. This took some of the freakout down by a few notches. I'm in same boat as you- turning 30 in a couple months and wondering where he is, too? Gotta take a breather, hahah. Girl,
I WAS just tripping about love. This took some of the freakout down by a few notches. I’m in same boat as you- turning 30 in a couple months and wondering where he is, too? Gotta take a breather, hahah.

]]> Comment on the smallest apartment in the world by Silva Mcferrin http://evahaldane.com/blog/2011/10/the-smallest-apartment-in-the-world/comment-page-1/#comment-619 Silva Mcferrin Tue, 13 Mar 2012 11:11:47 +0000 http://evahaldane.com/blog/?p=426#comment-619 hello I was extremely impressed with the setup you used with this internet site. I use blogs my self so good job. definatly adding to bookmarks. hello I was extremely impressed with the setup you used with this internet site. I use blogs my self so good job. definatly adding to bookmarks.

]]> Comment on confessions of a chick who was in denial of her daddy issues by L http://evahaldane.com/blog/2012/02/confessions-of-a-chick-who-was-in-denial-of-her-daddy-issues/comment-page-1/#comment-618 L Sat, 25 Feb 2012 15:06:45 +0000 http://evahaldane.com/blog/?p=467#comment-618 Please keep writing. This was amazing. Please keep writing. This was amazing.

]]> Comment on confessions of a chick who was in denial of her daddy issues by Yadi http://evahaldane.com/blog/2012/02/confessions-of-a-chick-who-was-in-denial-of-her-daddy-issues/comment-page-1/#comment-617 Yadi Thu, 23 Feb 2012 16:17:33 +0000 http://evahaldane.com/blog/?p=467#comment-617 I don't really know what to say -- but thank you. This rings so true to me. You were able to put into words what I have been trying to convey to my own friends for years. I cannot imagine how hard this must of been to write, because it is hard to come to terms with in my own thoughts. Seeing words (that can be so painfully honest) in black and white staring back at you cannot be easy, and I sincerely applaud you writing this. I cannot wait to read more, E. I don’t really know what to say — but thank you. This rings so true to me. You were able to put into words what I have been trying to convey to my own friends for years. I cannot imagine how hard this must of been to write, because it is hard to come to terms with in my own thoughts. Seeing words (that can be so painfully honest) in black and white staring back at you cannot be easy, and I sincerely applaud you writing this. I cannot wait to read more, E.

]]> Comment on when depression gets in the way by Isaac Clinton http://evahaldane.com/blog/2012/02/when-depression-gets-in-the-way/comment-page-1/#comment-616 Isaac Clinton Mon, 20 Feb 2012 03:13:08 +0000 http://evahaldane.com/blog/?p=458#comment-616 I love you Eva and I miss you. My favorite memories of my childhood were when you and your mom would come to Philly to visit. Time and revelations in my life have really changed the appearance of how things were back then but my feelings about you guys and those times remain the same. I want you to know I'm really proud of all that you've accomplished. I don't have much perspective on what it took to get where you are but I know what it is to work hard for something and feel that you have to give your all to complete it. Sometimes it pushes you in ways that you never knew it would and takes more than you thought you could give. Again, I love you Eva and I miss you. I love you Eva and I miss you. My favorite memories of my childhood were when you and your mom would come to Philly to visit. Time and revelations in my life have really changed the appearance of how things were back then but my feelings about you guys and those times remain the same. I want you to know I’m really proud of all that you’ve accomplished. I don’t have much perspective on what it took to get where you are but I know what it is to work hard for something and feel that you have to give your all to complete it. Sometimes it pushes you in ways that you never knew it would and takes more than you thought you could give. Again, I love you Eva and I miss you.

]]> Comment on broken hearts by V http://evahaldane.com/blog/2011/12/broken-hearts/comment-page-1/#comment-615 V Thu, 12 Jan 2012 12:10:32 +0000 http://evahaldane.com/blog/?p=456#comment-615 This broke my heart. I love you. This broke my heart. I love you.

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