I dedicate this post to Josh, Quise, Baby K and my dad.
The more I read the news, the more I realize it’s important to recognize that Black men are important. I think we need to say this out loud more often. And I need you to believe it when we say it.
You guys are dying every day and it’s crazy – beating each other to death with rail road ties just because, shooting each over over turf, killing each other because one is gay, over medicating yourselves with drugs, or committing suicide. You are being killed every day – by each other and by the police (40 taser deaths this year jeez).
Black men you need to reach out to Black boys. They need guidance, and as much as us women try to lead them down the right path, we know you can connect with them in ways we cannot. I respect this bond and wish more of you would cultivate these relationships with your brothers, son, nephew, cousins, mentees and neighbors. You need to show them that there is nothing cool about burying your friends, killing your enemies, fighting over petty shit like shoes or colors… or even girls.
Black fathers you need to talk to your sons. Even if you hate your baby momma, you need to leave her and stay with your children. You need to show them what a functional relationship looks like. You need to show them how amazing a father’s love it. You need to encourage them to do the right thing, even when you haven’t yourself. You need to support them – even when they aren’t athletic, even when they are over weight, even when they aren’t macho, even when they are gay.
Black men we need you. You are our fathers – our relationship with you is supposed to inform our relationship with men in the future. How you treat our mothers shows us how we should be treated in the future. You are suppose to protect us from people that want to harm us. You are our brothers. You are our confidants. You are our friends. You are our lovers. You are our husbands.
I hope to marry one of you someday. I hope to have children with one of you someday. I hope to grow old with one of you someday.
I know it’s not easy to be you, but we need you are around. Black men, you are important. You need to realize this and I hope you do before it’s too late.