I’ve called on pastors nationwide to stop the stream of momma, grandmother, aunts and female cousins coming to the altar for baby dedications with no man in sight. That pastor should say, “Until I personally meet with the father, I will not dedicate this child.” Somebody has to hold that man accountable for his actions.
It’s time that men hold their “boys” accountable. Actor Hill Harper had a friend who once said that he hadn’t seen his child in some time, but he found time to play basketball with Harper. Hill said, “Unless you call your child now, we can’t play ball.” See, Hill had to force him to accept his responsibilities.
I’m down for men holding other men accountable. Not sure how I feel about pastors refusing to baptize kids. It’s not the kid’s fault the parents don’t get along and the dad wants to disappear.
But for real, I think men should hold themselves accountable. I don’t know that I would want my dad to acknowledge me solely because his friends won’t ball with him anymore. I want my dad around because he is my dad, because he loves me and because he wants to be there.