I thought VH1 had taken it too far when they brought out Rock of Love or w/e it was called. That was what? The third or fourth version of this Love business they’re pushing? Just too much.

Anyway, I’m one of those people you’re talking about…lol I believe some folks use the term ‘friend’ way too loosely. I’ve had plenty of people I’ve called my friends in the past but there’s only one who’s really stuck around to keep the ‘title.’ I’ve known her for about nine years or so. Everyone else I come in contact with is relegated to being a passing associate until time tells whether he or she is a keeper.

In terms of the reasons you gave for having friends, I usually fare pretty well with those things on my own. It’s great when I have the support of my best friend (who lives in another state) but if I don’t, the associates are good enough. Haha.

If you truly choose wisely, you’ll probably find yourself with a handful of good friends. If you’re rolling with an entourage of people you’re calling your BFFs, you might want to do a few background checks…lol Okay, maybe don’t take it that far. All I’m saying: not everyone you call a friend necessarily is.

People need each other. Its just a simple fact. And its such an innate part of the human experience that people who try to oust others with statements like, ” I am not here for friends,” make themselves more confined to their misery.

And trust, they are miserable.

BTW, I can’t really get into those VH1 shows. Only when I am really really bored out my mind

Later,
B.

and don’t forget, some people make it out of these shows with friends – look at 12 pack and what’s his face, they’re bffs and making money on their own.

Seriously, they’re right in one respect: it’s about winning, and this cut-throat competition is not about making friends but doing battle. Many contestants in other game shows went for friendship and got backstabbed in the process. I’m going to make myself look ignorant here, but look at the Alliance on I Love Money. Whiteboy, Real, and Hoopz basically imposed themselves on everyone else, and Hoopz eventually won the whole thing because she had back-up. If not for the other gentlemen in the Stallionaires, she’d definitely get upended.

But I think your point about that idea of not having other friends has become a fixture in our cultures, and that’s unfortunate. It’s a side-effect of the capitalist spirit, and amoral Darwinism at its best. Good post.